This last Wednesday the weather was gorgeous outside. I had a training meeting over lunch, so afterwards I decided to get outside and take a nice walk around the office building where I work. On the way back into the building I saw an older/middle age couple starting toward the door (not unusual, as one of the business in the office building is a home mortgage business) so I got ahead of them and opened the door. I had a nice exchange of comments about the beautiful weather with the woman as she passed though the door, but then I noticed that the man was standing behind me with a slightly, I dunno, concerned look on his face. He then gestured that I go ahead and go though while he holds the door. I was mildly offended but complied anyway and didn’t make any big deal about it. Then I thought about it, wrote down some thoughts, and went on with my day.
I wasn’t even giving a stray thought to feminism or being political when I held the door for this couple. It’s the sort of thing I enjoy and do all the time for guys and girls alike. The only folks that ever seem to have an issue with it are older guys. But when this happens it turns it into a political thing . . . like he is trying to assert his authority over me by asserting that I play my proper role by going through the door while he holds it.
So what is this, really, that tells some men of older generations that they must not let a lady hold the door for them?