The return of The Skeptical Seeker

It’s been a long time since I have written here. For the past couple of years, I have turned more to short blurbs on Facebook and to private journals to express myself rather than blogging for all the world to see. I would like to try writing more and get a new post on here say, once a month at least?

A lot has changed in my life since I wrote here last. I have left my last job and I’m taking classes in the local community college to learn electronics. I have also had a baby who is 12 weeks old today. I’m still leading the Louisville Atheists and Freethinkers along with my husband and I have (re)started the Secular Parents of Louisville. These are the major things going on in my life right now. It’s been busy with the new baby and classes, but I’m sure I can find some time to write while the kid is sleeping.

Today I have set up the site with a new theme and banner image. Next on the to-do list: write more posts.

The Ferguson Masterpost: How To Argue Eloquently & Back Yourself Up With Facts

Wow. As a contract to the general media confusion around the events in Ferguson, MO, this is a very organzed and imformative post. I think I’ll be digging through this for some time, but for now I wanted to go ahead and spread the word.

[smut & sensibility]

We encourage you to share the link to this rather than reblogging the entire post (since this is frequently updated and we want to minimize the spread of outdated info!): bit.ly/FergusonAEM. Also, comment volume is high enough that personal replies are not always possible anymore; browse through the comments & see if your issues/ideas have been addressed there.

Introduction From The Curator

Updates & Notes After Initial Publication

Note (11/30/14 at 12:35 PM EST): This was initially meant to be a smaller post, but I feel a duty to keep updating and fleshing it out. Still, I won’t be able to go past a certain point. That said, I hope it’s still helpful to y’all in whatever iteration is final & that you continue the conversation.

Note (11/29/14 at 8:00 PM EST): Holy moly, this got a ton of traction. Thanks to all the folks sharing, commenting, and helping us correct typos…

View original post 8,507 more words

Happy Thanksgiving!

I am thankful for a warm house, hot coffee, the sense of safety I feel when I take a walk in my neighborhood (even when walking alone, or at night), and the fact that I can freely express my views on religion and politics without fear of persecution from my government. And that is the short list.

NO- Part II: Using the ‘Soft No’ and the ‘Dog-voice No’ in Sexual Situations

This is worth a reblog.

Disrupting Dinner Parties

content note: discussion of ‘almost’ sexual assault

In NO (Part 1), I talked about how my mother taught me to assert my boundaries when I was I was a little girl. She taught me to say “No!” or “Stop!” loud and clear, with a straight face and a deep, firm voice as if I was talking to a misbehaving dog. When I grew up, it clicked that I could apply this loud, forceful ‘Dog-voice No’ to asserting my sexual boundaries. Furthermore, I took the principle of using firm serious body language and removed the loudness to create what I call the ‘Soft No’—a more palatable, but still potent I-mean-what-I-say signal.

boundaries

Fortunately, I haven’t had to use the Dog-voice No or the Soft No very often. I am lucky enough to have spent most of my life surrounded by people that listen to my words. Nevertheless, every now and then…

View original post 1,533 more words

The Cost of Atheism (or just asking questions)

Looks like the “year without a god” guy has been let go from all of his jobs with religious organizations and schools because of his openly questioning religion. Apparently, he has made some people very uncomfortable. The Friendly Atheist has started a fundraiser to help him make ends meet while he lands another job.

And, as his blog post puts very well, he is really learning the costs that being atheists have for some members of our society.

Year Without God

We still love you!

So many of my closest friends and colleagues have said this to me in the past few days. My initial, unspoken reaction was, “Well, I certainly hope so.” Now I understand that this is not a forgone conclusion. I didn’t realize, even four days ago, how difficult it would be for some people to embrace me while I was embracing this journey of open inquiry into the question of God’s existence. I have to say that anyone who knows me personally, while they may not agree with what I’m doing or fully understand it, has expressed their support for me personally. I deeply appreciate that because the organizations that I have been affiliated with have not been able to do the same.

It began on the evening of January 1—the very first day of my year without god. First text messages, then email saying, “We need…

View original post 642 more words