Holding the Door

This last Wednesday the weather was gorgeous outside. I had a training meeting over lunch, so afterwards I decided to get outside and take a nice walk around the office building where I work. On the way back into the building I saw an older/middle age couple starting toward the door (not unusual, as one of the business in the office building is a home mortgage business) so I got ahead of them and opened the door. I had a nice exchange of comments about the beautiful weather with the woman as she passed though the door, but then I noticed that the man was standing behind me with a slightly, I dunno, concerned look on his face. He then gestured that I go ahead and go though while he holds the door.  I was mildly offended but complied anyway and didn’t make any big deal about it. Then I thought about it, wrote down some thoughts, and went on with my day.

I wasn’t even giving a stray thought to feminism or being political when I held the door for this couple. It’s the sort of thing I enjoy and do all the time for guys and girls alike. The only folks that ever seem to have an issue with it are older guys. But when this happens it turns it into a political thing . . . like he is trying to assert his authority over me by asserting that I play my proper role by going through the door while he holds it.

So what is this, really, that tells some men of older generations that they must not let a lady hold the door for them?

3 thoughts on “Holding the Door

  1. I just want to first say that I enjoy reading your blog and have added you to my blogroll.

    As for the holding the door for people, it’s only old-fashioned manners and the world would be a better place if more people were considerate that way.

    I have no problem with allowing a man, or anyone, hold the door for me. I have found in my recent medical “challenges” that while I was in a wheel chair for awhile, and then crutches, most people are very considerate. However, there are still a few selfish and uncaring ignoramuses who act like they don’t even see you.

  2. Thanks for the kind words 🙂

    I like it when someone, anyone, holds the door for me. It’s when I hold the door for someone and they just refuse to walk though–that just bugs me. Not that I’m going to lose any sleep over it though.

  3. Yeah, that’s pretty weird when they won’t walk through it. How about when you hold the door for someone and they say “no, you go first” and then you say “that’s okay, go ahead” and then they say “no, you go ahead” . . that is annoying. Why can’t they just say “thanks” and go first?

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